During the course of our life, we come to house an inner critic.

This is inevitable. We all have one. The voice points out our flaws, imperfections, failures, and how we are inadequate. The voice focuses on the negative. The voice echoes the conclusions we drew about ourselves, about life, about others, at early stages in our childhood.

This voice may be well meaning, but often it drowns out our own knowing, our own thread that leads to our own path that determines our particular life course.
Work with a coach to experience an objective and loving ear, an insightful and caring counselor, and share with a person who has no agenda for you.

You know what is good and right for yourself, all it takes is discovering your own compass, your north star, your inner knowing. What a gift it is to find and welcome these tools, and then use them to make your way.

As we consider these early, often harsh conclusions, we can make a choice about what is true, and plant fresh seeds that will support our authentic path, our heart’s longing, our honest expression.

This is good work. It is meaningful and powerful work. The seeds take root and sprout, then flourish, inviting you to feel congruent with your soul.

Being in a conscious relationship takes work, and learning new ways to love and connect is critical when we are committed to a partner.

No relationship is perfect and over time we all change and grow–as do our needs. This is to be expected and accepted, even celebrated.

Because most of us don’t learn relationship skills outside of our home, we either do what our parents did, or we swear to not do what they did. Either way, we are limited in skill and possibilities.

How do we know which skills are most healthy, generative, loving and effective? And how do we welcome our partner’s perspective without feeling threatened or fearful of losing our own perspective? Skills can be learned, all it takes is willingness and courage. It’s so valuable to learn communication, active listening, acceptance that your partner is not you and will not behave like you.

Our relationships determine so much of our overall well being. Working to create a meaningful and committed loving relationship is always a great investment.

Vulnerability is necessary, yes, and as therapist and life-coach Brene Brown says, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of connection.”

So, if you want to be connected–as we all do if we are honest–get courageous and get comfortable with vulnerability. Then watch your relationships blossom.